Friday, 26 July 2013

Why change? Staying stuck is more productive.

In the past couple weeks, I've been reflecting on how many people I know at present who are feeling stuck. They face big dilemmas and and are unsure of the way forward. For some it is being out of work and trying to plan the next direction, for others it is coping with grief after the death of someone close, and for many it is the daily demands of a job that leaves them overwhelmed and unhappy.

The impetus to plan a change is the logical response
when we believe we can control our own destiny.

The impetus to plan a change, or a response to the change that is happening to us,  is the logical response when we believe we can control our own destiny. At this point in the dilemma a lot of "shoulds" emerge--"I should figure out what I really want to do," "I should make more of an effort to meet people," I should update my profile on Linked In at least!"

Or should you?

Saturday, 13 July 2013

What's your Happiness balance? (Confidence is an OUTCOME gained through H.O.P.E.)

A couple weeks ago I blogged the first in my series on Confidence is an OUTCOME that is gained through H.O.P.E.  This is part 2.  The "H" of H.O.P.E. stands for Happiness.

As an executive coach, I often hear tales of some pretty horrid things. Companies restructure without adequate communication, the new strategy isn't working, a new boss comes in who is a tyrant, the struggle to be heard or to influence in a tide of bad decisions--these are all part of organisational life at one time or another.  And in coaching we work through these things and the individual's leadership during these trials.

So when I write about Happiness, I'm NOT going to espouse the power of positive thinking or "keep your chin up and smile" or any other such nonsense.  Life at work can be really hard sometimes, and when we also suffer from low confidence, we are prone to feel the knocks a bit too much.

It is important, therefore, to be able
take care of ourselves psychologically on a daily basis.  

It is important to focus on our Happiness balance, and on how we can be self-determined in creating happiness for ourselves, despite what is going on around us. 

Wednesday, 3 July 2013

Exec Mums Advice on Managing Perceptions When Returning to Work from Maternity Leave

Last time the Exec Mums Forum met, we had a new member join us who is just about to return to work after the birth of her (first!) baby.  We had a really productive co-coaching session.  It is always hard to coach someone who is facing a challenge we ourselves have already faced.  It is even harder to coach someone who presents a problem we identify with in the present!  But coaching is about helping the client to work through their challenges themselves; the client is more likely to succeed in implementation.

Be clear about what matters to you 
and the value you bring to the organisation. 

We therefore contracted with our new Exec Mum that we would together help her work through her concerns about returning to work, recognising that the situation is slightly different for each of us, depending on our ambitions for career, our family, and the environment at work.  The result was a rich co-coaching discussion in which our new Exec Mum discovered what she wanted for herself, how she would involve her husband, and how she would approach her boss and her company.

We also contracted with our new Exec Mum that after the discussion, each of us would give her top piece of advice on what has worked for her personally.  Here it is...

On Managing Perceptions When Returning to Work After Maternity Leave: